Mom Tips: How to Be the Best Mom You Can Be

Parenting is hard! If anyone tells you otherwise, they’re lying. Did you get a manual? Because I sure didn’t. Sure, there are countless parenting books out there, but which one actually works?

Most of us didn’t grow up with perfect parents, which means we may not have a clear roadmap for raising our own children. Kids absorb everything around them—they learn not just from what we say, but from how we live. As they grow, they become us as parents, often carrying forward both the positive and negative patterns we inherited.

The truth is, as moms, we push ourselves to the limit trying to provide everything we think our kids need. But what if I told you that you might be focusing on the wrong things? I can tell you that when I have a client in session they are never complaining about the barbie house they didn't get.

What if I told you that what your kids truly need is free and can be given from anywhere—even from the comfort of your own home? That’s right. Kids don’t need the latest cell phones, video games, designer clothes, or a packed schedule of activities.

Before we talk about what your kids need, let’s focus on what you need—self-care! Just like on a plane—you must put on your own oxygen mask before helping your child. You can’t pour from an empty cup; taking care of yourself is essential to taking care of others. Prioritizing self-care isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. When you’re well-rested, balanced, and fueled, you’re better equipped to show up for your children in the way they need.

Mom Tips: What Kids Need

Instead of exhausting yourself trying to provide things, focus on these essentials:

Validation – Let them know their feelings matter.

Reassurance – Remind them they are loved and safe.

Healthy Boundaries – Set clear and fair limits. Taking away their devices is not child abuse!

Encouragement – Cheer them on in their efforts.

Comfort – Be there when they are upset.

Positive Attention – Spend quality time together.

Problem-Solving Help – Teach them how to work through challenges.

Unconditional Love – Love them for who they are, not what they achieve.

Acceptance – Allow them to be themselves.

Life Skills – Teach them how to navigate the real world. Don’t do it for them.

Loving Correction – Discipline with kindness and guidance.

Respect – Treat them with the same respect you expect in return.

Final Thoughts

Healthy parenting isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present. It means allowing them to struggle, to hurt, be frustrated and to make mistakes without judgement and without being rescued. The goal is not for them to be happy but to be able to cope with everything life brings them. We are their teachers, not their friends.

You don’t need to do it all, buy it all, or be everything to everyone. The most valuable things you can give your kids is your undivided attention, space to make mistakes, guidance, limits, and most importantly your love. This will shape them for a lifetime. 

Take a deep breath. You’re doing better than you think. If you are questioning whether you are being the best parent you can be, I can help. Just reach out.